Counselling

Counselling

Paula offers Counselling including Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Mindfulness, Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) in her private practise in Putney, south-west London.

Counselling is a type of talking therapy that allows a person to talk about their problems and feelings in a confidential and dependable environment. Paula is trained in counselling and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), who is able to listen with understanding and empathy to your everyday difficulties. She can help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings that you may have or unhelpful thinking patterns. Counselling  aims to help you deal and overcome issues that are causing pain or discomfort, whether in your current work or personal life or from unresolved issues from the past.

It can provide a safe and regular space for you to talk and explore difficult feelings. The therapist is there to support you and respect your views. It is a place where the counsellor can help you to find your own insight and understanding of your problems.

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Counselling can help you to:

  • Cope with stress and distress
  • Become free from anxiety and depression
  • Deal with issues that are preventing you from achieving your ambitions and everyday tasks
  • Deal with feelings of sadness, anger, fear, loneliness and have a more positive outlook on life
  • Understand yourself and your problems more
  • Feel more confident and strong in a stressful environment
  • Develop a better understanding of other people’s point of view

Counselling can often involve talking about difficult, painful feelings or painful experiences and as you begin to face them, you may feel worse in some ways. However, with the help and support of your therapist, you should gradually feel better. You will be encouraged to express your feelings and emotions to get to a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, as well as exploring alternative and more helpful ways of coping with them. It can be a great comfort to share your worries and fears with someone who listens with understanding.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive behavioural therapy is a type of goal-orientated talking therapy that looks at how you think about yourself, the world and other people. It looks at how what you do affects your feelings and thoughts. By making connections between what we do, think and feel, CBT can help us make significant changes in the way we think (Cognitive) and the way we behave (Behaviour). Making changes to how you think will affect what you do and feel. Changing what you do affects the way you think and feel. Making these changes can help us feel better. CBT says it is not the event which causes our emotions, but how we interpret that event: what we think or what meaning we give that event, situation or person. Whilst it is helpful to discuss the past and understand how our pasts have influenced our lives and how problems have arisen, CBT mostly focuses on looking for ways to improve your mental wellbeing now. Sometimes we can get into a rut of negative thinking, feelings and behaviour – creating a vicious cycle that can maintain our emotional difficulties, like anxiety and depression. CBT can help you break these vicious cycles. When you understand your vicious cycles, you can then look at changing them and therefore the way you feel. It can also be helpful to look at the way our thoughts and feelings affect our bodies and the physical sensations we can experience. CBT can be used as a self-help guide to help you get to the point where you can work out your own helpful and positive ways of tackling problems, now and in the future.

Compassion Focus Therapy (CFT) by Professor Paul Gilbert

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We live in a competitive world where compassion and kindness is often seen as a weakness rather than as a good thing. Self-criticism and beating yourself up can naturally lead to low self-worth, addiction, anxiety and depression. Individual success and status in western society seem to motivate people in everyday life, often neglecting our fragile state of mind in times of stress, sadness, anger, trauma and turmoil. Compassion Focus Therapy teaches us why our brains react so readily to threats and acknowledges we react positively to kindness, love and compassion. Developing a sense of compassion and kindness for ourselves and others as well as being connected to the world we live in helps us to decrease our anger and increase our courage, self-worth and resilience to trauma, depression and anxiety or other emotional difficulties. It looks at our past relationships and family dynamics, identifying if we were brought up in safe environment with love, security and affection it would be easier for  us develop our compassionate minds. Compared to someone who was brought up in poverty, an unsafe environment with alcoholic father and a depressed mother, developing a compassionate way of thinking might be  trickier because maybe you have never been taught to have self compassion, feeling of being safe or low self esteem and you have not learnt to be kind to yourself because you never received from others . Our emotions[ can be overwhelming at times because of things in the past. To cope with these complex feelings the person might react in an angry way, withdraw, become a workaholic, or even self harm, but CFT teaches that is not their fault. CFT can increase your well-being including higher levels of positivity, optimism and happiness to help create better relationships with others. This evidence based approach incorporates evolutionary psychology, neuroscience, developmental and social psychology, models of emotions and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). The aim of therapy is to train our minds, in and with compassion, learning the evolutionary approach of understanding how our minds work, it focuses on the importance of attachment, love and affection from a neuroscience perspective. Integrating goal orientated cognitive behavioural and mindfulness techniques with a Buddhist philosophy.

 Mindfulness

beautiful natural scenic 03 hd pictureMindfulness, a word that has just slipped into everyday conversation, the new ‘buzz’ word in self-help. It is a welcoming thing to hear in this ever increasingly stressful and conflicting world we live in. It gains its roots in Buddhist philosophy and its practise can be life transforming: improving our individual emotional well-being, physical health and relationships with others. Putting us in a better frame of mind to face life’s challenges and achieve our personal goals. Mindfulness is a simple concept of paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment and being non-judgemental. It encourages us to have willingness to observe our negative thoughts and emotions with openness and clarity. Although a simply concept it is not always easy to put into practise, but  some information of it’s principles and with a conscious awareness of being mindful slowly but surely you can start to live more mindfully. Mindfulness observes positive and negative feelings and emotions without trying to ignore them or suppress them or over-identify with them, which can lead to negative reactivity. Learning with the therapist how to be more mindful in our thinking, feelings and behaviour in all aspects of our everyday life, and by utilising mindful meditation techniques it has been proven to positively affect our general well-being and resilience to negative life events.

Acceptance Commitment Therapy(ACT)

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ACT is behavioural therapy: it is about taking action and control in our lives. ACT teaches us that are personal goals should truly reflect our values in life, so that they have personal meaning to us and what we want to achieve in life. It identifies what really matters to you, deep down in your heart. We use your core values to guide, motivate and inspire behavioural change. ACT adopts a ‘mindfulness’ approach where we are fully present and consciously aware of feelings, emotions and behaviour: fully committed to seeking our valued direction in life. It promotes psychological flexibility: to be present, open up and do what matters.

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